I’ve read many writers saying they just don’t have enough time for social media. I’ve read writers who say they hate it, but it’s a necessary evil. I’ve even heard people say it’s not worth it.
They still try to do their social media, but their feelings about it shine through. When you go to a party and you meet someone who obviously doesn’t want to be there and acts like it’s a chore, do you want to spend time with him or would you rather go talk to someone who’s having a good time? I thought so.
You’ve been invited to a party called social media! It’s not a party just for friends to get together, however. It’s a meet and greet networking party. But it can still be fun. Remember that first impressions are lasting. You want to make friends, grow a following, and get to know people as I mentioned in this post on building your network one person at a time.
What’s the point of Twitter?
Twitter is one terrific way to get to know people. In just a few words, you can find out things you have in common, tweet about anything, then bump into someone else and have some more fun meeting another person. I think of Twitter as a crowded cocktail party where people don’t sit down, they move around and talk with everyone. What happens to the guy pushing his business cards on everyone and only talking about his business? No one wants to spend much time with him. So don’t go on Twitter to only push your product. Open up to people and be entertaining.
I’m in a bookclub. Why should I join Goodreads?
I’ve just started on Goodreads, and oh my, what a fun place that is. Now you’ve gone from the cocktail party to a party with people who have common interests with you. All you bookish types know how wonderful it is to talk to other readers. I’m a teacher, and even with educated people around me all day, it’s hard to find people with whom to talk about books. Goodreads and other reading sites fill that need, plus you get to know even more people. You get to read their blog feeds, and their thoughts in longer than 140 characters.
Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, and MySpace
Facebook, Google+, and similar social media sites are like a buffet dinner. You know the people, you invite more people, and you all share something with others. You might even get invited to a private party where you can sit down with closer friends and have a great time. They all are slightly different and fill different needs. See which ones work best for you.
Will anyone read my blog?
Blogging and commenting is a huge time commitment, but this is how you really get into the conversations on the web. I’ve made many friendships through blogs I visit. I comment, they comment, we run into each other somewhere else, and we pick up a new conversation. I see people visiting my blog that arrive here from a link in a comment I’ve made somewhere else. These are people I probably wouldn’t have met any other way. Blogging and commenting is a two way conversation, just like in personal contacts. It’s rewarding and entertaining.
What should I wear to the social media party?
Just remember that in all social media, you have to put your best face forward. You wouldn’t show up to a party without taking a shower, dressed in your old clothes you like to paint or garden in, would you? Probably not. (I hope not.) Likewise, online you need to present yourself in an attractive manner. Don’t have a headshot that looks like you just rolled out of bed with a hangover.
Don’t go online and grouse about having the runs, (TMI), cuss out the neighbor’s dog, or complain about clients or coworkers. No one wants to hear that. If all you write about is misery, you’ll be unfollowed and defriended faster than you can get another complaint out.
That doesn’t mean you can’t speak up, speak out, and even spark a bit of controversy about things that interest you. It makes you memorable. Just remember to do it tactfully, as you would in person.
Why bother with social media? I just want to write.
Networks created online are the lifeblood of writers. Word of mouth is what sells books, more than anything else. How else will you get the buzz going about your writing if you don’t put yourself out there and make friends? It takes time, but not too much time. A few minutes every day will do, if that’s all the time you have. Start with one social media site, and then gradually add others as you feel comfortable. Surround yourself with a core group that will encourage you and that you enjoy spending time with. Then it won’t feel like a chore. After making all these online friends, think how much fun it will be to meet up with them at a conference or some other face to face event? Go for it, and have fun!
I’d love to get to know you online.
Here are the spots I hang out.
Twitter as @suzannelilly and @HoneyCreekBooks.
Facebook as Suzanne Pitner for my personal account. I also have a Suzanne Lilly author page, which I’m still in the process of starting.
Google+ as Suzanne Lilly for fiction and Suzanne Pitner for nonfiction.
Goodreads as Suzanne Lilly.
LinkedIn as Suzanne Pitner.
I also group blog at Honey Creek Books with my posts on Fridays.










